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Slow me down...

3/12/2023

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One of the songs we sang today in church was one I hadn't heard before called "Slow Me Down" by the Robert Seay Band. Or perhaps, I had heard it before this morning, but I hadn't slowed down long enough to remember hearing it (I'm here all week, folks, but it really is possible, knowing me).  The lyrics say:

Slow me down, O Lord
Slow me down
Help my heart to hear Your sound
Speak into my life
Lord speak now
Slow me down, O Lord
Slow me down

Psalm 46:10 is likely my favorite Bible verse. It starts off with "Be still and know that I am God...". I have often said that I have absolutely no problem with knowing He is God. In fact, I rely on God to start my day by kneeling down beside my bed (when I'm at home and not traveling for work, two Labrador Retriever heads stick their noses up against my nose as I lean up against the bed to pray.....which always starts the day off even better) every single day. My problem is the being still part.  I seem to find it difficult to meditate as I know that, in order to do that properly, one needs to be able to be still.  I try....I really do....
I get in a quiet spot or I even go out for a walk or sit in the backyard where there is no noise, and I get quiet...until the "sh**ty committee" (sorry, but it's true) begins their meeting in which a voice pops up, "What have you done about XYZ?" then I quiet that voice only to have another member of the committee pipe up with "Have you thought about 123?"  Uggghhh!  

Last night, I woke up at 1:00 a.m. I'm not sure why, but the moon sure was beautiful, and I had to take a picture of how it lit up the backyard of our beautiful new house in the hill country of Texas. Between the big oak tree, the cedars, and the pool deck, the moon was lighting up everything in glorious splendor.  Now that was a quiet moment....so peaceful and serene....until I had taken a picture of said moonscape and tried to go back to sleep. That was the point at which my mind began moving through inane things like: reciting the last names of all the girls in my sorority pledge class of 1985 at Trinity University in San Antonio (Alexander, Alexander, Armstrong, Arrigo, Barr, Brooks, Cerisola, etc.). Then, even better, I began singing (to myself of course) the song Big Bird sings when he first sees the alphabet and interprets it as a complete word. "ABCDEFGHI-JKLMNOPQR-STUVWXYZ", he begins singing, "it's the most remarkable word I've ever seen. ABCDEFGHI-JKLMNOPQR-STUVWXYZ. I wish I knew exactly what I mean." Boy, at that moment, I just wish I knew what I meant by staying awake singing this little 50 year old ditty to myself (I will happily sing it for you some time; it's a catchy and fun little tune---just maybe not at 1:00 in the morning). 

Sometimes, I wake up thinking about how I can help that one graduate student of mine understand how important it is to spell the word "principal" correctly if they want to become one.  Sometimes, I think about what I am going to teach the next day to school administrators in Houston.  But I am prepared, so there is no reason to wake up thinking about those things. Well, to be honest, it just frustrates me to no end that someone who is going to become a principal doesn't see the value in spelling their future job title correctly, but that is for another blog. 

So, what is it that calms that still, small voice inside my head? My top three include: 
  • Using my favorite verse, "Be still and know that I am God", I whisper softly as I breathe in deeply on "Be still..." then breathe out slowly on "...and know that I am God". Somehow, just doing that simple acts calms me. Sometimes, I only have to do it once or twice. Sometimes, I have to do it 43 times (maybe just a slight exaggeration).
  • Sitting outside in our backyard in the hill country of Texas, I find peace and respite from the craziness of the world. I listen to the birds or the rustle of the breeze through the trees and I read. Reading a book for pleasure is a delicious treat that warms my soul. 
  • Jogging (or, as a dear friend calls what I sometimes do---slogging) with L.C. (our 3 year old Yellow Lab who loves nothing more on this earth than to chase deer, armadillo and butterflies) then coming back and soaking in the bathtub in our Master bathroom that has the perfect amount of natural light from tons of windows helps me feel at peace (and a sense of accomplishment as well-----the jogging part, I mean, although stepping in and out of the bathtub is a pretty great accomplishment on some days as well). 

What works for you? What are your go-tos for slowing down and feeling at peace? I'd love for you to share them with me, either by commenting on my blog itself or by commenting on Twitter, LinkedIn, Facebook, or from wherever you read my blog.  Who knows? I might just slow down long enough to read your ideas and try them out myself.

Take care and happy communicating!

​Shelly




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Derrick Franklin
7/26/2025 03:42:01 am

I recently went through a tough breakup. My 5 years relationship ended a month ago, and it's been really hard for me. I still love my ex-girlfriend so much and can't stop thinking about her. I've tried everything to win her back, but nothing has worked. It's frustrating, and I can't imagine being with anyone else. I've been trying to move on, but I can't seem to get her out of my mind. I know it might sound strange to share this here. Until a spiritual counselor became my only hope and confidence to her back into my life again. [email protected] reunited us again

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Carrie Alfred
8/22/2025 07:31:35 pm

My husband left me for another woman a few months ago and ever since then my life has been filled with pain and agony because my husband was my first love whom I have spent my entire life with. A friend and also a colleague from work told me he saw some testimonies of a spiritual counselor called Doctor Muna, He can bring back lover within some few days. Ridiculously, I laughed it out and said I am not interested. But for friendship's sake, she consulted this God sent man on my behalf and to my greatest surprise, Immediately after 12 hours, my husband called me for the very first time for over 7 months saying "I miss you babe and I'm so sorry for everything I made you went through" I couldn't say a word but cried over the phone and hanged up. We are back together and living Happily together again. To be honest, I still can’t believe it, because it’s highly unbelievable. Thank you DOCTOR MUNA for bringing back my love and also to my SELFLESS FRIEND. Laura, who interceded on my behalf. For anyone who might need help of this wonderful spiritual counselor, here is the email address: [email protected], Also add him on WhatsApp: +2347035449257

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