I heard this morning on the radio about a well-known religious talk show host who was taking phone calls and got one from a 17-year old kid. The young man wanted to know what to do as it appeared his parents' marriage was failing. The talk show host gave him this advice: "Your parents need some romance in their lives. Why don't you send them out on a date, maybe set up an overnight trip for them? They just need to get some romance back in their marriage." WHAT????!! (That's what I thought and said outloud to the radio). How about, "You know, as much as you would like, you are simply not responsible for your parents' marriage. You can pray for them, but what happens between married couples is not something you have control over or should think you do." ?
What if the young man sets up "date night" only to find out his parents file for divorce the next day? That is a lot of pressure for a teen to take on.
The Serenity Prayer is awfully helpful in times like this. I can do what I can do and I can let go of the rest. We are only responsibility for our own actions, behaviors, and feelings and can NOT control others. Anyone involved in any 12-step recovery program learns that the first day. And the rest of the world could use a dose of that as well.